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Aug 11 2012
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Is Step-Children A Proper Term?

Once you get married, what is his is hers and what is hers becomes his, even the children. This is nothing to be legalistic about but the term alone connotes inferiority. The child doesn’t have a chance. The child is probably already hurting from his parent’s failed relationship, now he/she has to endure being termed the lesser one. It would demonstrate so much love if the new spouse referred to the child as his or her own. If someone probed further, then you can say the child was from a former relationship of your spouse. If you’re sure the child has not been indirectly and negatively affected by being called your stepson or stepdaughter all their lives, then there is no need to try changing now. However, ask the child what they really would prefer or have preferred all their life with you. Let’s love and encourage our children to be nothing but champions, important, victors and God’s own special treasure. Ps …it also might help the marriage when your spouse sees you considering their child as your own.

 

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Feb 27 2012
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When Fathers Play Catch

The little things are often the most meaningful in parental relationships, especially among fathers and their sons. The few times on the bank or pier casting the fishing lines in the water, will never be forgotten in a young man’s life. The time under the hood of his first car, showing him where the fuel filter or spark plugs were, only took a minute but lasted a lifetime. Sometime men wait for a big day or some big event to take their son to, but to a young boy, the event doesn’t matter. All that matters is, Dad was with me. A slurpee, an ice cream cone, a soda after baseball practice makes for creating the best of memories. Grown men today still starve for a father. Field of Dreams was a classic. Kevin Costner’s character’s biggest longing was simply to play catch with his Dad. Fathers, get out the old gloves, loosen up and play catch. A great investment takes place, when fathers play catch.

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Feb 04 2012
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Homeschooling In Church

Some might think we’re just supposed to talk about Jesus all day in church services. That would be nice, but there are many other things that are so demanding as well. Home training. Our God is a God of excellence. He is class, beauty, splendor, and royalty. He does everything decently and in order. There used to be one opposing argument against homeschooling children, that was, “how are they going to learn social skills if they’re not out with the rest of the kids”? Well, we found that eight 6 year olds at a table cannot teach each other social skills. They’ll stand on tables, throw food, elbows on tables, kick each other, chew with mouths open, talk with food in their mouth and not wipe their hands after digging into the pizza.  Social skills are learned at home.

Many of our places of worship don’t reflect nor represent the Excellency of our God. This is primarily due to a lack of home training. A sanctuary should be a place conducive to the reverence and glory of God. It should not have gum in the carpet. It should not have the proverbial stench. The walls should not have to be painted once a year as a result of people putting their hands on them. The furniture should not have candy, chocolate or flavored drink stains on it. Good stewardship is an attribute to God’s character also. Parents didn’t teach their children to sit up straight, say excuse me and not “my bad”, and there’s nothing cute about a child pulling bulbs off the Christmas tree because he thinks they’re apples. These same kids are now grown ups.  You wanna talk about Jesus?

 

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Jan 21 2012
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Time

Time is the most valuable commodity we have. Life is time, what we do with it determines whether and how it works for or against us. We have time to seek our creator and find out what our purpose in this life is, and how to manifest it. We have time to establish relationships, to love people, to solve problems. There is always time, the question is, what are we doing with it. If the children need attention , it’s not time to be entertained by television. If the marriage is in disarray, it’s not time to have the boys over for dominoes. When unemployed, it’s not time to sit around watching Jerry Springer. When life is over, the dash between birth and death represents time. The sum total of every life was determined constructively and conveniently by the individual’s management of time. What you get out of this life is solely predicated upon what you put in. It’s all about Time!

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Jan 20 2012
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Not All Parents Are Parenting

In the same manner we distinguish a dad from a father, not all people with children are parenting. Children are like arrows in the hand of the mighty hunter. The parents responsibility is to direct the children in such a way that they grow up making proper decisions for themselves. True parenting is teaching and demonstrating before our children what would be the best for productive living. The children should not determine what to watch on television. The thirteen year old daughter does not always know what is the proper way to dress. Both boys and girls should be taught to respect their elders and authorities, yet discerning properly good from evil. A three year old does not know he/she needs a coat when it’s freezing outside, yet some parents don’t pay any attention. Parenting is following up on subjects taught in church, in school and supporting the child’s activities. Parenting is teaching right from wrong. Parenting is teaching social skills and helping manage and being good stewards over their finances. Parenting is setting the children on a course where they will begin pursuing their own goals. Parenting is instilling righteous morals in our children and being conscious of our own behavior around them. As Jesus stated, “it would be better to have a millstone hung around your neck and tossed into the sea, than to cause any of these little ones to stumble.”

Save the children.

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Jan 07 2012
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Why Would Blacks Commit Suicide

Blacks are committing suicide at a faster rate then ever in United States history. This epidemic was almost unheard of in the 1960′s and prior. Maybe blacks who consider suicide today just don’t know who they are. Maybe they’ve simply lost all hope and believed the lie of death being the only way out. Could it be that they’ve seen others choose that route to freedom. Proverbs 3:31 says, ”envy not the oppressor and choose none of his ways”. I use that verse because much of man’s behavior is learned. If the potentially suicidal blacks today would just look back a few hundred years. Observe how their ancestors were shackled hand and foot, taken against their will, stacked on top of each other, urinating, defecating, seeing their children raped, pregnant mothers split in half by ropes tied to each leg while horses gallop in opposite directions. Children were separated from parents at will. Loved ones were hung and burned with audiences of three and five hundred cheering on, just because a white girl (lied) said he looked at her sensually. And blacks today are choosing suicide because of a lack of money, nobody likes them and won’t give any attention to them. Help us Jesus!

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