Once you get married, what is his is hers and what is hers becomes his, even the children. This is nothing to be legalistic about but the term alone connotes inferiority. The child doesn’t have a chance. The child is probably already hurting from his parent’s failed relationship, now he/she has to endure being termed the lesser one. It would demonstrate so much love if the new spouse referred to the child as his or her own. If someone probed further, then you can say the child was from a former relationship of your spouse. If you’re sure the child has not been indirectly and negatively affected by being called your stepson or stepdaughter all their lives, then there is no need to try changing now. However, ask the child what they really would prefer or have preferred all their life with you. Let’s love and encourage our children to be nothing but champions, important, victors and God’s own special treasure. Ps …it also might help the marriage when your spouse sees you considering their child as your own.
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